There’s nothing wrong with disliking someone or being disliked by someone. It’s not easy to like everyone. It is easy, however, to get a along with everybody.
I can get along with anybody. It all starts with understanding. Misunderstanding is the cause of many problems. It is easy to understand someone, just allow me to teach you.
Just like you, everybody has a story. There are reasons that explain why people are the way they are.
Imagine how different your personality would be if you were born rich or poor. Imagine the effects of being physically or sexually abused. Imagine going through the hellish brutality of war. Imagine having a large family and being the forgotten child who didn’t get enough praise or love. Imagine being an only child who was spoiled at every opportunity and who could do no wrong.
Everybody has a story. You have to assume you are dealing with a sane, logical person. Once that is established you can begin to figure out why their life experiences and logic made them who they are.
A lot of people are also passive aggressive. For whatever reason they don’t express to someone how they really feel. As they spend more and more time in each other’s company the negative feelings fester and grow. It’s easy to solve this; be honest! You don’t have to like everybody. It’s okay if someone dislikes you. Maybe the person will even respect your honesty. -There have been times when my intentions were good, but my actions hurt other people. If they never pointed it out to me I would never have seen that side of reality. It hurt me to find out I hurt people, but I appreciated the opportunity to see a new light and change my ways.
If you try to understand people, if you are honest to yourself, and if you are honest to others, then you will get along with nearly everyone. It’s that easy.
This is a final note. The people who bother us the most tend to give us the best opportunities to better ourselves. We tend to dislike people who possess a quality we lack, or who possess a negative quality that we share, or who intimidate us, or who annoy us. Dealing with these sort of people will make you a better and stronger person.
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